Better Sex Tips For Women Make For A Much Happier Man Tonight

Why do you want better sex? Really, just go ahead and ask yourself that question. Is it too have more fun, feel better, or you want to make your partner happier. I always think if you ask yourself these general questions finding the better sex tips becomes a little easier. We all have varying sexual tastes as well as desires, so not all the sex tips we read are going to apply to us as well. However, there are a few that I have listed as better sex tips for women because they focus on both of your needs. These are the methods and tips that create passionate sex as well as a deep bonding experience.

So enough chitter chatter let’s get on and talk about better sex tips for women:

Our first tip focuses on oral sex, this is a pleasure that most men can not get enough of! Although most men will argue that their women simply don’t do it enough or they just don’t do it period. So get back into the groove of things and start performing fellatio on your man again, and remember how much fun it is. Make it an art show or just a private show for him, for that matter. Enjoy practicing on him and get pleasure from hearing him moan and squirm just by using your oral talents! Not sure what to do, just play with him. Use your imagination, vary your speed, suction amount, even the amount of saliva you use. Just don’t keep doing the same move over and over. Keep yourself interested in his penis and he will enjoy your interest!

Take a break from the hum-drum life and surprise your lover with unexpected sex. And I mean really knock his socks off, take him when he would least expect it. Are the two of you stuck in a routine well be the one to break it. Get him when he wakes up in the morning, grab him after he just finished mowing the lawn, heck take him during the half-time show. You need a little more help with this one? When he comes home from work tomorrow, be laying out nude in the living room with a come and get me expression. Trust me you want to kick things up a notch that will set things in motion.

Also, along the same lines if your sex life became routine you need to spice that up as well. How do you do it? Well you need to reinvent your wheel. Find some new positions and start trying them out. Remember those fantasies you both had, well no time like the present! Have a threesome, use toys, try bondage. Whatever is going to make your boats float, you need to do it. You don’t have to go to any extremes here, just have fun with the man that you love.

Do not let a dying sex life kill off your relationship, and ladies it does happen. Men are sexual beings and they need sex. If they are not getting it from you they will find it somewhere else. I hate to say it, but it is the truth. Does that make men pigs or evil..no it is just their design. Men have that desire to spread their seed, it is just the way of the wild. So if a man is not getting what he needs, he is going to find someone else who will be willing to take his seed. So do NOT let him do that, be open and explore new possibilities and fantasies with him.

Managing Stress in Your Sex Life

With the ever-increasing demands of work and family in our overcommitted, overworked, and overstressed lives, it is impossible to avoid stress as it is everywhere. A lot of people feel stress in their daily lives, and not all are able to handle the stress and strain very easily. Unmanaged stress is a bona fide libido killer as it serves a cocktail of unpleasant symptoms ranging from nervous anxiety, to insomnia, indecisiveness, irritability, indigestion, and muscle tension.

Your brain has been termed the most erogenous sex organ in the human body and its impact on one’s sexual performance cannot be overemphasised. It is the most powerful asset in your sex arsenal and your ability to control it is very fundamental to your success in achieving a fulfilling sex life. Unfortunately, stress can make you lose some or total control over your mind and once that happens, your sexual prowess starts to take a tumble. However, everyone is different so you are the best judge of what causes you stress but its impact on sex are more or less the same – a diminishing sex life.

Biologically, stress in small doses can be useful in dealing with high-pressure situations, such as a job interview, giving a presentation, or winning a race. Under this low dosage, it can also be conducive to a good sex life. However, long-term stress caused by life-altering events, such as the loss of a loved one, a divorce, a job loss or financial problems, anger and resentment, or even a move to new location.

When we are stressed, the body naturally increases the level of cortisol and adrenaline, two hormones that help prepare the body for a stressful event. These hormones protect our lives but in excess can become catabolic affecting the immune system as it breaks down body stores of fat and protein to be used for acute resources of energy and immune response. In fact chronic stress can result in chronic catabolism which is not only one the greatest cause of premature aging and cardiovascular disease but it may also severely inhibit testosterone functions, making it nearly impossible to build muscle or strength to enjoy a normal sex life.

Men and woman handle stress in different ways. When a man is under stress, he often feels more pressured about his ability to pleasure his partner and more susceptible to sexual performance anxiety. His fight-or-flight system causes blood flow to be redirected to his limbs. This is often why most men find it difficult gaining and maintaining an erection.

Women on the other hand tend to respond to stress differently by feeling moody and exhausted. Stress in women also lead to release of oxtytocin, which leads to a decrease of free circulating testosterone in the body. Consequently, this hormonal chain reaction leaves women less physiologically primed for sex.

Not only does stress cause depression, impotence, and mar sexual performance, which in turn can result in low self-esteem and lack of confidence, but the medications commonly used to treat it, such as anti-anxiety drugs, tend to depress the libido and inhibit desire. However, instead of the use of medication in trying to manage stress, a better and more holistic approach may be to indulge in activities that will help you and your partner soothe and relax your nerves.

Ironically, this is the point where the best advice, which however may seem out place, comes in handy. And this would be that you and your partner indulge yourselves in the pleasures of sex. This is because an orgasm will defeat stress every time.

Sex has been shown by various studies to be an effective stress-reliever that can help you and your partner’s outlook on life. Sex itself can be said to be an exercise depending on the intensity and involvement during lovemaking. And just like any regular exercise, endorphins (called the “feel good” hormones) are released, which coupled with the soothing touches and deep breathing, contribute to alleviating the physical and psychological effects of stress. Use sex to your advantage in combating stress as it can also refresh your mind, body and spirit.

However, if you don’t feel up to having sex, you should make sure not to withdraw from expressions of affection. During periods of stress, you and your partner need more physical contact, kissing, hugging, cuddling, and holding hands. Takes turn nurturing each other in pleasurable ways.

Relaxation is the best antidote to stress any day, any time. For men, relaxation is the key to redirecting blood flow into the genitals. A phrase from Ian Kerner, author of He Comes Next, better illustrates the benefit of relaxation in managing stress when he stated that “If stress inhibits erections, then it stands to reason that relaxation does the opposite. It promotes arousal.”

Though it may be initially difficult, try and do whatever it takes to change the mood from one of stress and tension to a more fun and relaxing atmosphere. Soften the lights, put on some mood enhancing music, dance with each other in the nude, and may be, afterward take a candlelit bubble bath. Also give and receive a good massage from your partner while you both practice some deep breathing as you relax your muscles.

Finally, exercise, just like sex, is a great stress combatant. Engaging in some cardiovascular exercises several times a week can help you better manage your stress. Exercise will also help increase general blood circulation, energise, and pump up some of those “feel good” endorphins into your bloodstream.

Sex And Love In The Early 20th Century

In 1930 the Motion Picture Producers and Distributors of America announced the adoption of the “Motion Picture Code,” which was designed to clean up the movie business. The Code forbade the use of words such as virgin, seduce, pregnant, chippy, broad and even such innocuous words as damn and hell. In 1934 the Catholic Church announced the formation of “The Legion of Decency,” and promised to boycott films it found offensive. Each week churches gave parishioners a copy of what was commonly called “The X list,” which forbade Catholics to see movies that were on it.

One film on this list was “The Moon is Blue,” made in 1953, starring William Holden and Maggie McNamara. This movie was forbidden because the heroine told her date she was still a virgin. Such intimate revelations weren’t allowed then; after all, every unmarried female was supposed to be a virgin, so it was unnecessary to verbalize it. This was also the first movie to use the words “virgin,” “seduce” and “mistress,” after a long battle with censors.

The ’40s and ’50s were so puritanical even married people couldn’t be shown in bed together in movies, they had to be side-by-side in twin beds, usually with a nightstand separating them. And they could never kiss in bed, unless they were dying and it was obvious they weren’t about to have sex.

DRESS CODE

A female had to wear a full slip in a movie, she could never appear in a half-slip and bra. A bare-midriff was shocking! Modesty in dress began to erode in 1946 when the bikini bathing suit was introduced, to loud cries of “obscene.” Many parents forbid their daughters to wear such skimpy attire on the beach. Another blow to modesty occurred in 1964 when the mini-skirt came into fashion. This was followed by “hot pants,” and then the micro-mini, but nothing shocked the sensibilities of many people as much as the “thong” bathing suit. Once again, loud cries of “obscene,” and “it should be banned as immoral,” were heard. Some thought it was the end of civilization as we knew it, and it was, compared to the decades before.

FULL FRONTAL NUDITY

Playboy magazine, whose trademark was photographs of nude and semi-nude women, was first published in 1952, featuring Marilyn Monroe on the cover, and photos of her sans clothing inside. There were strident objections that it was immoral and contributed to the demise of refined society.

In the ’60s, Elvis’ display of gyrating hips while singing, garnered the same reaction.

LIVING IN SIN

Couples didn’t openly live together before the so-called “hippie revolution” of the ’60s. This arrangement was called “living in sin,” or “shacking up,” and was considered immoral and disgraceful, and was usually hidden from people.

Lovers who wanted to spend the night together had to get a hotel room, pretending to married. This usually involved getting a dime-store wedding ring and filling a suitcase or two with books or newspapers so as not to arouse the suspicions of the registration clerk.

There were few apartment buildings before the late ’50s and most single people who didn’t live at home, rented a room or a flat in someone’s house. They were never allowed to have overnight visitors of the opposite sex, so those planning to skirt the rules had to be sure their partner left before the homeowner awakened in the morning. Getting caught meant getting evicted.

SINGLE MOTHERS

Pregnant women who were unmarried, were not called “single mothers,” but “unwed mothers,” and their babies were termed “illegitimate,” or even the more crude appellation: “bastards.” By the ’60s so-called “shotgun weddings,” became laughable relics of the past. No longer did parents demand that the man who impregnated their daughter marry her and take financial responsibility for the baby. The father often walked away and the mother went on welfare, often supported by tax dollars. But, during the ’60s unwed motherhood came out of the closet, was accepted and became epidemic, even on high-school campuses.

The flower children of the ’60s introduced dramatic changes in what was considered permissible behavior. As world events affected people’s status and roles, these ideas were paralleled by changes in their concepts of morality.